Living in the moment not an easy task

Published 8:04 pm Thursday, July 19, 2018

While on vacation at the beach, I saw a sign that read, “The longer you look at the ocean the more you see.”

This phrase struck a chord in me, I guess because there is something so prophetic in its implication.

Also, I know there is a part of me that struggles with breathing in its meaning.

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I have become the world’s worst at living in the moment. I seem to always either be envisioning the future or rehashing the past, while the here and now swims past me.

And when life gets sticky and complicated, these tendencies of mine just escalate, sometimes even splashing on to others.

One would think at my age things would have become “beachy” by now, but the older I have grown, I seem to have just dug myself deeper into the sand.

I think this temperament of mine may have begun when I was in my 20s and had just started my family.

I remember times when I would complain about the monotony of doing laundry. Washing and folding is not the most exciting of jobs, but having clean clothes for my little family was a blessing I sometimes failed to recognize.

Worrying about what teachers they got in school and if their peers would like them was a constant concern, but everything worked out. If I had only not fretted as much, I might have had a few less wrinkles.

I have put so much time and energy into aspects of life I have no control over, and here I am nearing my sixth decade of life still clinging to a mindset that is nothing more than a flimsy inner tube.

Letting go and letting life take you on a voyage is one of the hardest things for me to do, but if I don’t start loosening the ropes that are so tethered to the dock, I am going to miss the sunset.

There is a calm that comes from sitting beachside, listening to the ebb and flow of the waves as they crash along the shoreline.

But there can be so much more than just listening to the rhythm of the gulf. It is time to jump in and feel the chill of the water and taste the salt as the spray rises.

And when it is time to climb out, I will look back at the ocean and smile at what I “sea.”

Terri Cowart Frazier is a staff writer at The Vicksburg Post. Readers are invited to submit their opinions for publication.

About Terri Cowart Frazier

Terri Frazier was born in Cleveland. Shortly afterward, the family moved to Vicksburg. She is a part-time reporter at The Vicksburg Post and is the editor of the Vicksburg Living Magazine, which has been awarded First Place by the Mississippi Press Association. She has also been the recipient of a First Place award in the MPA’s Better Newspaper Contest’s editorial division for the “Best Feature Story.”

Terri graduated from Warren Central High School and Mississippi State University where she received a bachelor’s degree in communications with an emphasis in public relations.

Prior to coming to work at The Post a little more than 10 years ago, she did some freelancing at the Jackson Free Press. But for most of her life, she enjoyed being a full-time stay at home mom.

Terri is a member of the Crawford Street United Methodist Church. She is a lifetime member of the Vicksburg Junior Auxiliary and is a past member of the Sampler Antique Club and Town and Country Garden Club. She is married to Dr. Walter Frazier.

“From staying informed with local governmental issues to hearing the stories of its people, a hometown newspaper is vital to a community. I have felt privileged to be part of a dedicated team at The Post throughout my tenure and hope that with theirs and with local support, I will be able to continue to grow and hone in on my skills as I help share the stories in Vicksburg. When asked what I like most about my job, my answer is always ‘the people.’

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