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One thing for sure I want on my bucket list

I have never composed an actual bucket list — you know, the list of all the goals, dreams and aspirations you hope to accomplish before you die.

Certainly, there are things I have said or thought about wanting to do, like seeing Elton John in concert, which I got to do, by the way.

But to have thoughtfully and methodically written such a list has not happened.

I understand there is a movie starring Morgan Freeman and Jack Nicholson called “The Bucket List,” which portrays two men striving to check-off their “must do’s” before they die.

The movie, released in 2007, was a box office success, but for some reason I missed it.

Maybe I should watch the film. It could inspire me to make my own agenda, but then again, maybe not.

Do I really need a bucket list?

What if I make out my list and for whatever reason decided to take something off?

Can you do that?

Also, with my character traits, making a bucket list and not fulfilling it could be a downer on my death bed.

What if sailing the Mediterranean was on my list, and I didn’t get it checked off?

Would this suggest my life was ungratifying or meaningless?

Definitely, we should have goals, dreams and aspirations, but for me making a bucket list feels a bit concrete.

Life, for me, is more fluid, especially since knowing as a teen and young adult that my bucket list would have looked entirely different than if I were to make one now.

However, with all that being said about a bucket list, a few months ago I ran across a little book at the Lorelei Book Store that intrigued me.

It was entitled, “The Five Secrets You Must Discover Before You Die.”

Well, that grabbed my attention. Who wouldn’t want to know the five secrets you must discover before you die, particularly for someone who is on the back half of their life?

Therefore, I proceeded to pull the book off the shelf to see if I could glean a bit more about the manuscript from the blurb on the book jacket.

In big bold print at the top of the cover it read, “Don’t wait until you’re older to become wiser.”

Followed by, “The essential dilemma of modern existence boils down to this: You have limited time on this planet yet unlimited choices about how to spend that time. How are you to live? What really matters?”

The author of the book, Dr. John Izzo, posed these questions along with others to more than 200 folks 60 years of age and older from all walks of life. I was curious to hear what all these people had to say, so I bought the book.

While I have yet to finish reading it, I hope that by the time I do, I will have gained insight from these elders. Maybe I will learn enough to make a different kind of bucket list, one that not only includes watching performers on stage but one that will also serve to broaden my views and responsibilities to life.

In a quote from the author’s prologue, Izzo said, “From the time I was a very young boy I wanted to know the secrets to living well and dying happy. The songs I enjoyed, the movies I watched, and the books I read were always about the search for what really matters. More than anything, I hoped that before I died I would figure out what mattered.”

That’s what I want on my bucket list.


Terri Cowart Frazier is a staff writer for The Vicksburg Post. She can be reached at terri.frazier@vicksburgpost.com.

About Terri Cowart Frazier

Terri Frazier was born in Cleveland. Shortly afterward, the family moved to Vicksburg. She is a part-time reporter at The Vicksburg Post and is the editor of the Vicksburg Living Magazine, which has been awarded First Place by the Mississippi Press Association. She has also been the recipient of a First Place award in the MPA’s Better Newspaper Contest’s editorial division for the “Best Feature Story.”

Terri graduated from Warren Central High School and Mississippi State University where she received a bachelor’s degree in communications with an emphasis in public relations.

Prior to coming to work at The Post a little more than 10 years ago, she did some freelancing at the Jackson Free Press. But for most of her life, she enjoyed being a full-time stay at home mom.

Terri is a member of the Crawford Street United Methodist Church. She is a lifetime member of the Vicksburg Junior Auxiliary and is a past member of the Sampler Antique Club and Town and Country Garden Club. She is married to Dr. Walter Frazier.

“From staying informed with local governmental issues to hearing the stories of its people, a hometown newspaper is vital to a community. I have felt privileged to be part of a dedicated team at The Post throughout my tenure and hope that with theirs and with local support, I will be able to continue to grow and hone in on my skills as I help share the stories in Vicksburg. When asked what I like most about my job, my answer is always ‘the people.’

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